Challenges to Connection for Couples When One or More has Family of Origin Trauma
A Talk by Cheryl Rogers MS, LPC-S, LMFT-S EMDR Approved Consultant EMDR Tr (Cheryl Rogers Counseling)
About this Talk
Betrayal trauma and gaslighting are particularly challenging issues in relationships, and when present alongside Family of Origin trauma, they can compound the difficulties a couple faces. Here are some specific challenges:
1. Trust and Safety - Betrayal trauma and Family of Origin trauma exacerbate trust issues, making it challenging for the betrayed partner to feel secure and for the partner who caused the betrayal to regain trust. Gaslighting can create a lack of emotional safety in the relationship. The combination of betrayal and gaslighting can result in a profound erosion of the betrayed partner's self-esteem and confidence, making it difficult for them to feel emotionally secure.
2. Communication breakdown - Gaslighting involves a breakdown in communication. This hinders open and honest communication, which is crucial for healing from betrayal trauma. Family of Origin can further complicate communication.
3. Impact on self-worth - Betrayal trauma and gaslighting can have a significant impact on the self-worth of the betrayed partner. Family of Origin trauma may already contribute to feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem. The combination of these issues can intensify these negative feeling, making it crucial for both partners to work on rebuilding the injured party's sense of self-worth.
4.Rebuilding Requires Professional Help - Overcoming these challenges often necessitates professional intervention Seeking therapy from a qualified specialist in trauma and relationships is crucial for healing and rebuilding trust.
Addressing these challenges requires commitment from both partners to honesty, accountability, and mutual growth. Professional therapy, individual counseling, and open communication are essential components of the healing process. It's important for couples facing these challenges to recognize the complexity of their situation and seek appropriate support to navigate the path toward healing and rebuilding their relationship.